I believe most people prefer recognition and appreciation rather than being criticized.
On social media, we can easily send a dozen of “Like” with a few clicks. But in reality, how often do we appreciate the good that is happening around us? Sometimes, because our life is overloaded, we may have forgotten to appreciate the love and cares of our beloved. Or because we grew up in a culture that prefers criticisms and accusations than affirmation and encouragement, we seldom show our appreciation towards anything.
The power of showing your affirmation and appreciation is compelling in building and maintaining a good relationship. How to make a compliment is an art. We may need practices to deliver it sincerely, naturally and precisely. And while learning to appreciate others, remember to appreciate yourself. This semester, let’s try to find something that deserves a “Like” and say it verbally, not virtually!
相信每個人天生都喜歡得到別人的認同和讚賞，相反地，不喜歡被怪責。
在社交媒體上，我們指頭動一下，隨手就派數十個Like。但在現實生活裏，我們有多常”俾個Like”予身邊的人和事呢？有時候，我們因為生活太忙碌，忘記給家人和朋友的付出來一個即時肯定和讚賞。又或者因為我們在傳統批評與指責多於肯定和鼓勵的教育文化中成長，口中也説不出多幾句好說話，挑剔批評卻是一羅羅。
其實，給予別人合適的肯定和讚賞是維繫良好人際關係的妙藥，比送禮物更加直接窩心。如何讚美卻是一門藝術，能讚得真誠，自然和精準，是需要時常練習的。而學懂讚賞別人的同時，也記得要讚賞自己。今個學期，大家不妨從日常生活中找一些值得讚賞的人和事，從你口中”俾個Like”！
#咪做百「彈」齋主
#俾Like，唔駛用艾豬嘅，用個”心・口”得喇
#Positive reinforcement
#讚，要讚得具體啲
#唔係淨係”好”，”好好”同”非常之好”㗎